Dorothy Khan (Nepal)

Dorothy Khan received her MS in Global Affairs from New York University, graduating with a concentration in Human Rights and International Law. She conducted field research on both registered and unregistered Rohingya women in the refugee camps of Bangladesh. During the summer of 2015, she traveled to Iraq to implement a self-designed project, aimed at empowering youth in the Duhok region of Iraq to become local community peace builders. In addition, she previously worked with urban refugees in South Africa, aiding them in navigating through difficult legal issues as they formally applied for refugee status. Her experience over the years in refugee rights, women's empowerment and human rights has imbued her with substantial experience working with disadvantaged populations throughout the world. Dorothy is also a recipient of a MA degree in Public Policy and and BA degree in Political Science from Stony Brook University. After her fellowship, Dorothy wrote: "Working with students in rural Nepal really changed me as a person and my outlook in life. Not only was this fellowship the most challenging experience I have ever had but it was rewarding and powerful, and I would do it again."

Pakha Lagnu A.K.A. Isolation

20 Jun

resized3“Pakha Lagnu” in Nepali means “isolation.” It is also the word that people here use for menstruation.

Take a moment and let that sink in before you read ahead. Isolation – it is what these girls are made to feel every month when they menstruate. In some households, menstruating girls are not allowed to step into the kitchen or eat and sleep with the family.

I went to a school called Jeevan Jyoti, in Gutu Nepal to teach adolescent girls about menstrual hygiene and in return learn more about the social and cultural context of menstrual issues. The taboo nature of menstruation was apparent as the girls struggled to discuss menstruation with me and Suresh, the program coordinator from my host organization the Women’s Reproductive Rights Program (WRRP). Their nervous laughs, avoidance of eye contact, and the fact that they covered their faces with their dupatta (scarf) when speaking made it clear that menstruation, body changes and sexual health are shameful and embarrassing topics.

As a woman I can tell you that having your period is not a walk in the park. So, imagine that you are made to feel unclean, dirty or guilty for having your period every month. After speaking to the girls about menstruation, I realized one thing; they really do not have any knowledge of the changes that take place in their body and why they get their period.

When I asked the girls to explain what happens when a girl menstruates, they simply listed some of the symptoms of period, such as back ache and belly ache, but they did not understand the cycle. The girls first learned about their period from their sisters, mothers or female friends. Most of the information they were told was about the use of cloth to manage their flow, restrictions and rituals. But nothing about the psychological process were mentioned. I am assuming that if the girls do not have a good knowledge about their period, then the boys are just clueless.

resized6The lack of proper hygiene and privacy is another major problem for a lot of girls in school. The girls that I met mentioned that they use cloths or other materials during their period. They always have this fear that either the cloth will fall out or leak into their pants. The school isn’t gender friendly, which means that girls lack access to adequate resources, facilities and accurate information to manage menstrual hygiene. It makes it very difficult for them to wash and change at school, which is why menstruation causes so much absenteeism from school.

At first, when we spoke, the girls couldn’t even bring themselves to use the word “Pakha Lagnu” in front of us, but at the end they were discussing the topic openly and expressing their feelings. They simply cannot wait for us to go back and conduct training on reproductive health and menstruation.

Don’t worry girls, the world is reading about you and is standing up for your dignity and rights.

Posted By Dorothy Khan (Nepal)

Posted Jun 20th, 2016


  • ai hoang

    June 27, 2016


    Awesome blog Dorothy! Very interesting to hear your first hand account on what the girls are experiencing over in Nepal and it’s definitely very uplifting to see that your work is having such a positive impact on them as well. Best of luck!

  • Rita

    July 7, 2016


    Dorothy, it is great to see the impact you have on those girls just by discussing menstruation with them. A training/ workshop or more could definitely deliver greater results, not only boosting their confidence but also raising their awareness to care for their health and stand up for themselves. Keep us posted on the programs!

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