Refilwe Moahi

Refilwe was born and raised in Botswana. Prior to her fellowship, she completed her MA in Sustainable International Development at Brandeis University’s Heller School of Social Policy and Management. Most recently, she worked with Oxfam America in Boston as Campaigns Organizing Fellow supporting legislative and corporate campaigns that focus on international food justice, food security, economic inequality, and issues of transparency in the extractive industries. Prior to that, she worked with the Andando Foundation in rural Senegal, where she fell in love with West Africa, managing micro development programs on food and water security and income generation that directly benefit women and children. She also worked with the Government of Botswana’s Department of Women’s Affairs supporting women’s small enterprises and raising awareness about gender-based violence and HIV/AIDS. She also holds a BA in Politics & International Relations and French Studies from Scripps College.



A Story of War Rape

08 Jul

Fatoumata*, a 40-year-old woman from Gao, is a war-rape survivor of Mali’s bloody civil war.

As soon as we ask the first question – Where are you from? – tears well up in her eyes. Fatou lost her husband to natural causes/old age before the conflict began. When Tuareg rebels stormed Gao in 2012, Fatou had only her older brother to protect her and her six children. When armed rebels showed up at their door, they killed her brother to get him out of the way by hitting him on the back of the head with a rifle, and raped her. She was left traumatized and alone to raise six children.

Fearing for her life and her children, she took them and fled to Bamako. UNHCR and other volunteers were providing free buses for people to flee the North. But she was not free from the violence of the war: on the road to Bamako, armed rebels attacked their bus, tied up all the men, and raped all the women, even the little girls aboard.

Miraculously, they were let go.

And, once in Bamako, she found a place to rent, but often had trouble getting enough to eat for her children. She heard about Sini Sanuman from an acquaintance and decided to attend one of their educational meetings. She later approached the community organizer leading the session.

She says that she feels at ease at the Sini Sanuman center; she eats well and her regular appointments with the psychologist have helped her find some peace. Furthermore, she has learnt a lot about excision and sexual and gender based violence as they are used to control women.

While speaking about what she has been through brought back sad memories, her face brightened up when we asked to see some of her embroidery. She wants to put this, and other income-generating skills she has learnt at the center to use to care for her family.

A group of survivors with outreach coordinator, Mariam Seck, showing off their embroidery

This story is not unique.

Most of the women at Sini Sanuman describe stories like this. They were attacked at home or on the river, at school, or along the road by a group of armed rebels or otherwise unidentified men. They were assaulted for not covering their heads – or for no discernable reason at all. The men in their families were beaten or killed in front of them, and they in turn were raped in front of these helpless male relatives. These families are all terrorized in service of the war, engendering complacency for one side or the other.

Yet, their suffering does not end there.

Having lost everything, they struggle to find housing and to feed themselves. They are unable to enroll their children in school without their files and documents. Or they cannot afford the registration fee, cost of school supplies, transportation, and school meals.

Rape during war is immediately destructive and damaging, both physically and emotionally. When compounded by the difficult living conditions of being a refugee or internally displaced, it is clear to see that women and children face unique challenges.

*Name changed

Posted By Refilwe Moahi

Posted Jul 8th, 2015

3 Comments

  • These stories are so heartbreaking and so impossible to fully wrap my mind around. I’m so glad they have one another and you to support them, Refilwe.

  • Josh Levy

    July 22, 2015

     

    This story left me with chills. When you hear about war in the news, it evokes a completely different sensation. It is so easy to remain detached and analytical about a conflict when you are half a world away, but this story brings the emotional trauma of war to the forefront. It’s something I am totally unfamiliar with, despite spending the last 3-4 years studying conflict. As I read your blog, I’m reminded that no matter how much we try to understand the mechanisms of war and no matter how much we analyze its root causes, it is truly impossible to comprehend. For people like the woman featured in this story, and for countless others in conflict-zones throughout the world, war is a very personal and destructive experience. We owe it to those people to support the work of groups like Sini Sanuman. Thank you Refilwe for giving a voice to women survivors of the conflict.

  • Alan Levy

    July 23, 2015

     

    Enlightening story for we Americans do not know of this life but hear about these atrocities and read stories of such horrific acts. I respect the efforts you are making to help these poor women.

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